Why Are Girls Not Attracted To Me?

There are many cases where a guy will feel as if girls are rarely or never attracted to him. Girl's will not talk to him, dance with him or even include them in anything. This leads to you feeling unattractive and not wanted. It starts to happen more and more, at the club, bar or even just at a buddies birthday party. Finding the answer to what is wrong with you starts to become an everyday thought. Repeatedly going through your mind, "what do I do wrong?" or "am I really that ugly?". I'll tell you one thing, it has nothing to do with your looks, the sports you play or don't, or your background or religion. Yes these will effect your outlook and perhaps your personality, but when it comes to girls it is all about how you act in that moment.

Why are girls not attracted to me?

Well to answer this question briefly, girls are not attracted to you because you are doing something negative. The most common mistake guys make is STAND THERE. They just stand there like a lamp in the corner. They won't say anything except for a "Hi" or "How's it going?", after that they become what I like to call a "negative end". When you stand around and think to yourself 'why is no one talking to me' or 'I wanna talk to that girl but she will probably reject me'. RIGHT THERE! As soon as you start doing that you're sending out a wave of negative energy. It may seem like you're harmless, but the negative thinking and doing nothing impacts the people around you. Have you ever taken a look at some one who looks lonely and not smiling. How does it make you feel? Your answer should be down, it brings your mood down. Chances are you are not going to hang with that dude unless maybe you feel sorry for him. I may sound a bit harsh but it comes down to the truth, and that is, YOU are the problem. Inside your head, your actions and how you talk.

Now that you understand what the issue is a bit better and I apologize if it seemed blunt, but you needed to know the truth. So what can you change to get the attention of the girls? The first thing you need to do is, and I want you to do this right now. Think positive! Start being happy and show it. I guarantee as soon as you switch your mind set from negative to positive, you will feel better. Things around you will start working out as well more good things will come to you. The law of energy + (positive) attracted to - (negative) does not apply here. Think the opposite, if your a positive and outgoing guy, positive things will find you. Think about things that you're looking forward to or something that can always cheer you up.

Once you have set your mood, keep it. Have that mood for as long as you can and do not let other people take it away from you. Life goes on so don't let one little thing like a girl rejecting you ruin your day. There are other fish in the sea.

OK so let's get into more detail now and paint a picture. Say you're at your buddies party and there are 10 girls and 15 guys. The ratio is not great but it is what you have to work with. You've walked into this party in your good happy mood we talked about before, so don't lose it. Now don't think cause all of a sudden your happy all 10 girls will come jump on you. What you need to do first is talk to a GUY. Yes, go to your friend that is throwing the party, don't even acknowledge the girls, say Hi and thank him for having you over. Ask how he is doing and make conversation. By the way, when you are talking with people, sound positive and talk about good things. People don't want to here about how bad things in your life may be, they want to hear the good stuff. Have enthusiasm in your voice. Don't say "hi..." as if your mumbling. You need to sound confident, "Hey, hows it goin man? What did you do today". If it's a group of people do the same thing just say "Hey guys, hows it going!".

So already you have put yourself in a position to be talked to. The actions you do as soon as you walk in will attract people to you. The conversation you are now having may bring up a cool topic that others are interested in but because you have started it, they will talk to you and ask you questions.

K stop here, ARE YOU SMILING? I don't mean right now but maybe you should be. Always, always be smiling. Smiling can put anyone in a better mood, you be that person.

If any activities are going on, a card game or maybe beer pong! Get involved, or better yet, suggest it. If you suggest to do things you are being pro-active. You're thinking about things to do, what is going on around you and what could stir things up. If there is something going on such as a game of beer pong then play or even watch. Chances are good there is going to be some excitement in that area.

Have you noticed I haven't got you to even talk to a girl yet? See girls LOVE attention but what you are doing right now is reverse psychology. The girls are thinking 'I'm hot and fun, why is he not paying attention to me?'. In response, they will start to do things to get YOUR attention, perhaps even talk to you. I am not saying just ignore the girls or treat them like they are not there, but you need to show you don't care. Don't care. At this point, if you are playing beer pong or in a good convo with a buddy then you shouldn't care or be worrying about the girls. I don't want you thinking about it "OK, I don't care, I don't care". IF you do this, your back to part one of creating a negative source of energy. Just simply focus on what you are doing and have fun. Everyone there is there to have fun and feel good. You need to be a part of that good and create some if you can.

I hope you haven't played too many games of beer pong, cause you need to be able to talk and stand for that matter.

"Hi, I'm Sharon".

What do you do here? A girl has spoken! Here's what you do, SMILE and respond with "Hey, how are doing tonight, I'm John". Of course you would not say John but instead your own name. Now that you have her attention and she has yours, just remember to stay positive and talk about the good happy things. This should be easy to do seeing as your going to let her do the talking. One thing you need to know is girls love to talk about themselves. If she asks you a question then answer briefly followed by another question for her. Asking a list of questions can get a little awkward, so if you can, try and start a conversation. Something that will make her smile and stay interested. Do not be afraid to use your sense of humor if you have one, girls love a funny guy.

Just remember she is just another human and you're just talking. Don't be aggressive in any way cause you will scare her away. Compliment on her hair or something that stands out to you. NOT her chest. Make sure you look her in the eyes and listen to what she is saying.

If you can, you should try to stay somewhat aware of what is going on around you. Your main focus should be the girl and what she is saying, however, it is always good to keep an open ear or eye so that you can go back to the party if things do not go all night with her. I'll tell you right now, if it is your first time meeting this person, you may have a chance of talking all night if things really click, but you do not want to keep her as your focus all night. If you talk with someone and then spend the rest of the night following them around or trying to talk again and again, your going to creep them out. Sure you had a good conversation and she will remember that, but you if you get caught up on her, you will miss out on the rest of the party. You will also get out of your confident outgoing mind set. Have the conversation then go back to the party, unless of course one thing leads to another with her.

Success! But don't blow it now.

Getting a number can be exciting but also dangerous. It can really damage your chances if you become too aggressive. Just because a girl gives you her number does not mean she wants you messaging her everyday and calling her to come hang out. This will push her away and push her away fast! Not only do you come across as a little creepy, but also, annoying, desperate and aggressive. To a girl this is a flag that either says that your very clingy and have nothing else going on in your life, or it is saying I just want to get in your pants as soon as possible.

When you get a phone number you can send her a text so she has your number unless you both exchanged numbers. After you know she has your number and can contact you, just don't do anything for a few days. See if she texts you. If she has not messaged you in 3 days it does not mean she is not interested and blowing you off. There are two good reasons she has not messaged you. One is she is probably busy with work or doing her own things. Or she is a little unsure about texting you and possibly waiting for you to do it. After about 3 days if you have not heard from her just send her a short simple text saying "Hi, how have you been?" or ask how the rest of her night went from the party. Let her reply, do not spam her with messages or phone calls, this will dig yourself a nice big hole and a dead end.

A girl needs her space and you need to give it to her. If she is really interested and wants to see you again, she will. Just give it time and don't rush into anything.

• Be Positive and Happy
• Smile
• Focus On Other Things
• Do Not Be To Aggressive (Texting or Talking)
• Give Her Space and Let Her Do The Talking

Just remember, looks play a small role in how women are attracted to you. First impressions are important, but so is your personality and how you treat them. However, it may just be the girl is not attracted to you. You can not expect every girl to be interested in you, just as most guys are not interested in just any girl.